Why is important to our children fail

Sometimes the parents tend to de-emphasize the failures of our children to avoid being embarrassed, without realizing that it is counterproductive for them. The sobreprotección the failure not helping at all; on the contrary,that leads directly to the failure in the future.

 

According toa recent studypeople not to face his failures, tend to make excuses for their mistakes, without striving to improve. Instead, the emotional response to failure, focus on emotions after a failure and reflect on them leads to strive more next time I try.

" It is often advise not to stop the mistakes, so that the person doesn't feel bad, "said the study's co-author Malkoc Selin Ohio State University's. " But when people are focused on how bad it feels and how doesn't want to experience these feelings again, it is more likely to make next time further efforts. "

" When asked to think about their mistakes, most people focuses on protecting their ego, said Malkoc. They think that the failure wasn't his fault. "

" If your thoughts focus on how to distance yourself from the failure, you're not going to learn from your mistakes. "

Help your son to confront the failure

Obviously, the parents it hurts us to see our children fail because they see suffering. It's something that can hurt them and make them feel bad.

As parents, we should make them feel that we are always there to support them, do it right or wrong.Teach them to identify their emotionsin failure, get them to express the anger that gives them lose a game, you cry because something hasn't gone as expected or to tell us what they feel to this or that disappointment, is that they can reflect on their feelings and they want to do better next time.

Our support and love is key to I feel unloved and protected forever, regardless of which are the results.

Don't tasted their achievements, but the effort

If we are behind our childrenpraising everything exaggerated they do well, telling him how great you do everything, the child is dependent on our approval for all his acts, and that's not good.

The child will grow continually seeking the reaction of others and when you didn't hail, he will be lost and frustrated, believing that the affection of parents and others in the praise you profieran.

The achievements are circumstantial. We don't want perfect children, but children who make mistakes and learn from their mistakes. It doesn't mean to go to the other end and to elogiemos when they do something good. In its role as the praise are a way to demonstrate that they value, they help to improve their self-esteem and reinforce his personality..

But it is important to unravel the effort of achievement in itself. Strengthening the first will encourage them to want to do it better, no matter the outcome. Today the culture of expediency makes us want to fast and successful results, but give him courage the effort and the strength of will help them grow more balanced and be a positive learning for the rest of his life.

 

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